What happened to the Rishi Sunak I knew at school?
Q. A perk of my job as a critic is a stream of press tickets to plays and ballets. I like to invite friends, but if we meet for dinner they invariably offer to pay the bill as a thank-you for the ticket. Even when I explain that the tickets haven’t cost me a penny, they insist. In wanting to treat friends, I end up the treated one. How can I avoid tussles over the bill?
— L.F., Bayswater, London
A. How about saying ‘and what’s more the tickets have come with a voucher for such and such [some local eaterie] so if you’re planning on dinner afterwards perhaps you could go there and I could join you for free’. Sort the ‘voucher’ out en route to the theatre by slipping into the restaurant and explaining the issue to them. In this way you will be able to still treat your friends to the theatre without the risk of their overdoing the payback.
Q. One of my oldest friends is a wonderful but slightly self-obsessed man. He is godfather to my second-born, but always gives money to my eldest when he sees us, and nothing to my second. How can I gently remind him that it is the other daughter who is supposed to be his goddaughter? She is only young but is starting to notice and get upset. Last time he came, he gave a wonderful crisp £50 note to her older sister.
— Name and address withheld
A. You or your daughter should email him to say she is doing a ‘friendship tree’ for a school project. It includes all her godparents. Could he help to flesh out the project by supplying a short paragraph about himself?
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